Hmmm. It's Saturday and I'm here at the office writing a post...
I just saw a good friend of mine who will soon return home to her country and so I'm feeling a bit melancholy. While I support her decision and hope the best for her, I can't help feeling that this is another one of those cases where I am experiencing great loss. No, it's not as if there's been a death however, this departure is yet another of those situations that contributes to the void that already exists in my heart. It is also a situation that one has to try really hard to put aside that feeling of loss and realize that friendships really can transcend distances.
So, I will just say this: M! I already miss you and it's been only about ninety minutes...Thank you for your friendship and I know that we'll see each other somewhere in this world. Take care.
On another note, I've been doing a lot of thinking about independence. Sometimes I think that it's all very over-rated...
I received a letter from one friend and face-to-face words with another about the thought processes of men. I suppose that, while I understand what they are saying, I also feel that I now know why communication between the sexes can be so challenging. I try not to get frustrated about it but wonder how in the hell I am going to change my ways so that I don't end up being single for the rest of my life.
I was told that women shouldn't trust that she will get the level of emotional support that is required from that straight man in her life. Do you agree? While I don't want to, I think that I kind of have to side with that advice.
I guess what I don't understand is why? Some men are honest enough to admit that they are looking for someone to take care of them (ie. a mother) and that is often the expectation of the male half of a heterosexual couple. However, it also seems that women are expected to fill this role without actually getting the same in return. Who, may I ask, takes care of all of those "mothers" in a relationship? Are we supposed to just grin & bear it?
Okay. I don't want you guys out there to think that I'm just spouting off some sort of feminist rant. I want you to know, that is definitely not the case. I am just wondering about it and would really like to start up a dialogue about it.
I was brought up to believe that it's basically up to the men who take the lead in regards to who they want to be with. However, I've realized that this just leads to frustration because while men seem to be more relaxed around the actual asking a woman out, the women are busy questioning themselves with things like, "Does he really like me?" And while these guys often take their time with the whole relationship thing, women are busily trying to find ways to push the relationship to the next level. They call, making up excuses to get the guy to call back and thus end up having this person feel you are too needy and give up on things.
I'm just trying to learn something here. After all, I've only got the opinions of some really close gay friends and one surprisingly honest straight friend that happens to be male. Maybe, if this kind of dialogue happens, we can all find a happy medium. I'm not trying to start another "Men are from Mars" phenomenon, I'm just trying to work things out. After all, you can't blame men or women. It'd just be nice to know how to get along...
On a final note, along with saying farewell to my good friend M, I would also like to add a "good luck" to T. Keep in touch...both of you! (T, have you sent the ho-cho yet?)
I just saw a good friend of mine who will soon return home to her country and so I'm feeling a bit melancholy. While I support her decision and hope the best for her, I can't help feeling that this is another one of those cases where I am experiencing great loss. No, it's not as if there's been a death however, this departure is yet another of those situations that contributes to the void that already exists in my heart. It is also a situation that one has to try really hard to put aside that feeling of loss and realize that friendships really can transcend distances.
So, I will just say this: M! I already miss you and it's been only about ninety minutes...Thank you for your friendship and I know that we'll see each other somewhere in this world. Take care.
On another note, I've been doing a lot of thinking about independence. Sometimes I think that it's all very over-rated...
I received a letter from one friend and face-to-face words with another about the thought processes of men. I suppose that, while I understand what they are saying, I also feel that I now know why communication between the sexes can be so challenging. I try not to get frustrated about it but wonder how in the hell I am going to change my ways so that I don't end up being single for the rest of my life.
I was told that women shouldn't trust that she will get the level of emotional support that is required from that straight man in her life. Do you agree? While I don't want to, I think that I kind of have to side with that advice.
I guess what I don't understand is why? Some men are honest enough to admit that they are looking for someone to take care of them (ie. a mother) and that is often the expectation of the male half of a heterosexual couple. However, it also seems that women are expected to fill this role without actually getting the same in return. Who, may I ask, takes care of all of those "mothers" in a relationship? Are we supposed to just grin & bear it?
Okay. I don't want you guys out there to think that I'm just spouting off some sort of feminist rant. I want you to know, that is definitely not the case. I am just wondering about it and would really like to start up a dialogue about it.
I was brought up to believe that it's basically up to the men who take the lead in regards to who they want to be with. However, I've realized that this just leads to frustration because while men seem to be more relaxed around the actual asking a woman out, the women are busy questioning themselves with things like, "Does he really like me?" And while these guys often take their time with the whole relationship thing, women are busily trying to find ways to push the relationship to the next level. They call, making up excuses to get the guy to call back and thus end up having this person feel you are too needy and give up on things.
I'm just trying to learn something here. After all, I've only got the opinions of some really close gay friends and one surprisingly honest straight friend that happens to be male. Maybe, if this kind of dialogue happens, we can all find a happy medium. I'm not trying to start another "Men are from Mars" phenomenon, I'm just trying to work things out. After all, you can't blame men or women. It'd just be nice to know how to get along...
On a final note, along with saying farewell to my good friend M, I would also like to add a "good luck" to T. Keep in touch...both of you! (T, have you sent the ho-cho yet?)
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